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  • Writer's pictureAaron L. Parker

Personal Power in Forgiveness

The act of Forgiving can be very hard. Sometimes even seemingly impossible. In particular, the process of self-forgiveness and healing may seem beyond our reach. And yet, as I've

been studying this emotionally complex principle, I have found greater personal power in choosing to forgive.

What do I mean?

Forgiveness cleanses the soul. It is a private, purposeful, choice to let-go of pain, anger, offense, hurt, and sadness. In a truly surreal sense, these abandoned catabolic emotions are miraculously replaced with the personal power to choose humility, trust, hope, courage, and ultimately experience inexplicable comfort. This sometimes-Herculean work of forgiveness remarkably strengthens our own faith in Deity's power to

comprehend our deep-seated intimate individuality; and consequently, we discover divine healing in ALL areas wherein we may feel injured, broken, damaged, or even unalterably lost.

Additionally, forgiveness does not require us to tolerate or permit - where personally appropriate and capable – pain, harm, or evil. Rather, through compassion and grace we remain at liberty to stand anchored within our personal values. Even as we choose to forgive our family, friends, ourselves, and especially our supposed enemies, without limitations or stipulations, we discover the substantiated immunity in forgiveness. This freedom allows us to release our perceived need to assert our will and presumptive control over others. I say “perceived” because in truth, we have zero power to control or change anything within another person’s mind and heart.

Thus, the miracle of forgiving unequivocally heals our own heart. It gives us increased personal power in our thoughts and chosen emotions. If we choose to avoid judgment, if we choose to starve and eliminate anger, offense, insecurity, distortion, and hateful emotions, if we stop assuming and instead listen and get curious, if we embrace our own self-worth

independent from anyone else, if we choose to not become offended in the first instance, forgiveness becomes part of who we are rather than what we do.

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